Saturday, April 18, 2020

COVID 19 / Quarantine / Social Distancing........a new normal?

This post may be a little all over the place so hang with me.  I like all of you are living this new normal right now and I am not sure what to think of it really....

First let me say, that I am SO thankful to all the medical personnel, Police, Fire and EMS AND Grocery store workers that keep putting themselves out there to care for the sick, keep us safe and keep the shelves as stocked as they can so we can get what we need.   I for one appreciate you all.

For me personally this has sucked.  I am healthy and I have a roof over my head, food in my house, a job and yes, the ever elusive TP....  However, I feel stuck, I feel lost, I feel like I want to crawl out of my skin.  I happen to like being out and about and with people.  Being forced to be home has made me sad.  I think it's the anxiety of the unknown.  When will this end, when can I go back to the office, when can I workout in a group with friends, when can I shop.....  I like control of my life and right now I don't have that.   There are a 100 things I could be doing in my house but I have no desire or motivation to do them right now.    And I wonder, what will life look like after this?  Will we really go back to "normal"? 

I started this particular blog a month ago and just didn't feel like finishing.  So now a month later I reread the above 3 paragraphs and I pretty much feel the same....  However, they are now starting to talk about opening up the states, the economy, etc...  I have mixed feelings about this.  I've read the guidance and it is as vague as ever....  how long in each phase do you wait to get to the next?  And is this our life forever now?  Go be free, oh wait hold on we have had an uptick in COVID-19 so everyone back home again?  I am not advocating either way, stay home for the next however long or open it all up.  I just want direction and an ACTUAL plan.  Because what is out there is NOT a plan.  And what happens when the next virus comes???  I swear we are living EVERY sci fi movie ever made right now.

Are there things I enjoy about this time?  Yes there are and I try to focus on those.  Like, I am getting to spend more time with Grayson.  I don't have to get up at 5am to get to work.  Because of technology I am able to still work and workout.   But the silence and quiet time allows my mind to race and wander and that is what gives me stress and anxiety.  Yes I know I should focus that on other things but that is not how it works.  Trust me I am thankful for all that I have but this is not healthy at least not mentally or emotionally. 

I am trying to find the silver lining but right now I just want this to be done.  I miss my family!  I miss hugging people.  I miss going wherever I want whenever I want. 

I need the people in charge, our government, to GET IT TOGETHER!!  And before anyone goes there, this is NOT about one party or the other.  This is the WHOLE damn group of them.  Come together put together a REAL plan and strategy.  We are WAY past blame and need to move forward. WE THE PEOPLE are not your pawns.  Get our healthcare workers, our essential workers the equipment they need so we can keep them safe.  Stop fighting over stupid shit, act like an actual adult and figure this out.

What I would like to see come out of this craziness is that we actually talk to each other, hang out - phones down, go outside and actually live.  Find the beauty in the world.   And MOST of all I would love to see us come together and move forward UNITED. 

As our communities begin to open up again, PLEASE be considerate of each other, help each other, support each other.   Support those local businesses that may not have been able to stay open in some regard during all of this.  Love on those who have lost something during this time regardless of how small you may think it is.  It may be the biggest thing to them at this moment in time.

Anxiously waiting to see what our world will look like as we move forwad.

Nic



Wednesday, December 25, 2019

2019 ~ a year in review

As I sit here on Christmas morning during a very different Christmas I am reflecting back on the year.  It has been a whirlwind in every area of life.  I know I normally write a letter and send it in the Christmas cards but this year just got away from me soooooo.... Take a trip down memory lane with me....

Let's start with work.....  In January I was deep in the midst of an acquisition of my company.  Crazy busy time, but I am grateful for the event as it meant I stayed employed vs our company shutting its doors.  It's been a crazy but successful year in this regard.

Shawn and I are plugging away at life and I would say enjoying the empty nest life.  Of course we love when the kids come and visit and I wish they were here all the time but this decade of life has been my most fulfilling as a person, a wife and a parent.  I couldn't ask for better!!  Well, other than to not be sick at Christmas.....

Andrew has had a busy year himself!! He and Emily moved in together, got a dog and most exciting of all, got engaged this Summer!!   They are getting married on April 19th, 2020.  Cannot wait!!  Emily is a beautiful young lady both inside and out and I am so excited to have her as part of the family!!  She just graduated college this December and is currently teaching at Mansfield ISD.  So proud of her.  Andrew has added Bike Patrol to his LEO resume.  Some might think this is easy but you are still patrolling at night looking for criminals without the protection of your police car.   He is also looking at some additional opportunities within the department.  More on that next year....

Grayson and Taelur hit the two year mark this Summer!!  They both moved to Baton Rouge at the start of the school year.   Taelur is a certified cosmetologist!!  So proud of her!!  Grayson is networking and making contacts in the technical theatre realm.  Only a year and a half to go and then it's off to the real world!!!  Whenever I go see a show at LSU I can see how much he is loved and respected by his fellow theatre peeps! I have always said I love that group of kids whether it was high school or college.  Watching him in his element is one of the best things!!  Love these two to pieces!!  I am so excited where life is taking them!  Two beautiful souls that make me so proud!!

The doggos are crazy as ever!!  However, we are down to 3.  Autumn is still kicking it and has been very spritely despite all her ailments...  Hazel and Riley are in full adolescence....  rambunctious, snuggly, crazy and FULL of energy.  Love our four legged babies!!!  Now to figure out now to control all this hair all over....  HAHA

In addition, I have continued to focus on my fitness with CG and completely love CG Family!!  I have gained new friends that I cherish!!  I renewed focus on my fitness and more trainers that I love!!  I competed in CG games for the first time this Summer and it was SO hard but SO fun!!  We trained for weeks and if I do say so myself did GREAT!!

I have also joined the Premier Designs family as an independent Jewelry Consultant!!  Just starting out but loving it!!  Looking forward too what next year brings!

Added a new tattoo!  Gray and I both got the coordinates of Cape Cod to commemorate our trips there as we both LOVE vacationing there.

AND we got a POOL!!!  Why did we wait so long to do this???  Oh yeah, that was my fault...  LOL  We got to spend quite a bit of time in it this Summer before the temps cooled off.  But have enjoyed the hot tub since then.  Can't wait to open the pool back up next Summer!!!

Lots of crazy health things this year so am very thankful that we are healthy!!  Unless of course you consider the Christmas Plague that Shawn and I have this year.....  All in all we are in good health!!













































I hope this letter finds you all in good health, happy and blessed!

Love to all
Nicole


Wednesday, September 11, 2019

9/11, 18 years......

Like most of you, this day brings so much emotion.  I can vividly see not only the night before but also this day and the days that followed.  We went from happily celebrating our anniversary with a great dinner to feeling helpless, hopeless, angry, crushed, confused, scared and many other emotions to having faith in humanity restored all in a matter of days.

I usually spend many nights at this time of year watching all the 9/11 coverage on TV again and again and still to this day trying to understand and comprehend what happened.  It breaks my heart over and over.  Why do I do it then??  One, to always remember, two I am still trying to comprehend that day and the hate it took to cause such devastation.  I vividly remember watching the second plane hit and thinking it was a replay of the first because there no way someone would intentionally crash two planes in to these buildings.  Everything we knew on September 10th was crushed on 9/11.

There are many posts and pictures about that day and the days that followed.  And I wonder why it is on this day we long for the days of 9/12 when we all came together as one?  Is it because the hurt and sadness is real again?  Why don't we long for those days everyday?  We remember on this day but then go back to our lives when it is over.  Yes, we need to be able to move forward and move on but we say, "Never Forget", so we should truly never forget and strive to be the people of 9/12.

Those 3000 people that perished on 9/11 would be so very disappointed in the country we are today.  They died because of the immense hatred that others had for us simply because of the country we live in.  Why today, do we have so much hate within our OWN borders for each other, not to mention the hate we seem to also have for those outside.  We MUST learn from our past and do better!  We need to love and support one another.  It doesn't matter who you are, you should feel FREE to be yourself, believe what you want to believe, disagree even with others, but just because someone is different than you doesn't give you the right to be a bully or to promote hate.   We MUST be better America!!

Use the memory of this day to drive kindness back in to our country and our world.  And don't think I am only one person, it takes one act of kindness to start spreading kindness across the many. 

Think about the below.  How quickly our whole lives changed!!!  Let's be better so people don't think they can do this again one day.   NEVER FORGET!!

8:46 a.m.: Hijackers deliberately crash American Airlines Flight 11 into floors 93 through 99 of the North Tower (1 WTC).
9:03 a.m.: Hijackers deliberately crash United Airlines Flight 175 into floors 77 through 85 of the South Tower (2 WTC).
9:37 a.m.: Hijackers deliberately crash American Airlines Flight 77 into the Pentagon, near Washington, D.C.
9:59 a.m.: The South Tower (2 WTC) collapses.
10:03 a.m.: After learning of the other attacks, passengers on United Airlines Flight 93 launch a counterattack on hijackers aboard their plane to try to seize control of the aircraft. In response, the hijackers crash the plane into an empty field near Shanksville, Pa.
10:28 a.m.: The North Tower (1 WTC) collapses. The 16-acre World Trade Center site is in ruins, with collateral damage affecting all adjacent properties and streets. A rescue and recovery effort begins immediately.







Saturday, December 29, 2018

Reflection

As this year comes to a close and I reflect on all that has taken place I realize that life will go where it wants and you are just along for the ride.

We have had moments of excitement and pride and moments of extreme loss and sadness.  All of the events and emotions that have come this year have made me take a step back at this time and reflect on what I have. 

My life is the best it has ever been.  My kids are happy, healthy and productive adults.  I continue to be a proud mom every day.  I can't express how much I love my kiddos but it is an immense feeling!  My Husband is happy and healthy and has a good job that provides.  I am happy and healthy also with a good job.  Even though that job has provided a roller coaster of its own this year, I am still employed and that is all I can ask.  Aside from all that, I have a family that loves me unconditionally and that keeps me going.

I am so very blessed to have a family that loves and supports.  This includes my immediate family, my husband and children as well as parents & siblings.  We may not always see eye to eye but we love each other nonetheless.  And whether you are near or far, or if we see each other all the time or once in a blue moon, I am here and I love you!!  I also have several friends that would go to the ends of the earth for me as I would them.  But what I have realized is that with all the busyness of life we forget to reach out to one another and just check in from time to time.  A text, a phone call, a FB message just to say hi can mean the world to someone. 

We have experienced great loss this year in two ways.  One, we lost our sweet old Hunter this Summer.  We miss him every day but we are glad he is no longer in pain.  But the biggest loss we had this year is something too many people experience in their lives.  We lost one of Shawn's absolute best friends to suicide this fall.  To both experience this loss yourself and watch the family go through this unimaginable pain and sadness is something that I hope no one else ever has to go through.  What is left behind after a suicide is tragedy, sadness, anger, questions, loss and emptiness.  Everyone copes in their own way and in their own time.  I am not sure if time will actually heal this wound, but maybe it will make it more bearable, who knows.  I am just praying that all affected can put one foot in front of the other every day and feel the love and prayers that surround them.  We need to keep our friends and family close, check in often even if it's just a simple hello.  I am trying to be better about this. 

My hope for 2019 is that I connect more often with friends that I love dearly, check in on them more often.  I pray for healthy lives both physically and mentally for my friends and family.  I also pray that if any of my friends or family EVER need to talk or feel like they are at rock bottom that they let me know.  I will listen for as long as it takes. 

I leave you with this as we leave 2018...  NEVER take anything or anyone for granted, live each day to the fullest as it could all change in the blink of an eye!!  Love one another with every ounce of your being.  Be brave!!  And when all else fails, LEAN ON ME!

I love you my friends, my family and I hope to be the best friend or family member I can be.

Let's rock 2019 TOGETHER!!

~Nic






Sunday, July 16, 2017

Did I really have a hand in this.......

When your kids become adults or almost adults you look back and wonder..... when did I learn how to parent??

As a new parent you have no book to refer to, only what your parents did or didn't do when you were growing up or maybe your own crazy ideas of I will never do that or let me try this.  Then there are all the social pressures of the perceived "perfect moms".  You think to yourself how am I EVER going to navigate my kids through this thing we call life...

People would always ask me if it got easier as my kids got older.  That is not an easy answer.  It's one of those yes and no answers.  LOL  Let me explain from my perspective.

Yes, it gets easier just from the sheer fact they become more self sufficient or more independent.  No diapers, no bottles, they can take a bath by themselves, etc....

No, it does not get easier because all of a sudden the pressures of society start to become a real part of their lives and they have to deal with Friends, Bullies, Peer Pressure, Mean Girls, and the list goes on....  And you as the parent have to try to help them navigate.  The older they get the harder this gets.  You have to let them handle some of this on their own so they learn how to become active members of society and understand how to get along with people that may not be just like them.  It is so hard to watch your kids fall and they will trust me, more than once.  Just be there to catch them and tell them it will be ok.  The heart strings of a Momma really get tested during the growing up years.  Some days you just want to throw your own tantrum but somehow (by the grace of God) you stay standing and get you and you kids through.

Then comes the time of their lives when they graduate high school and start their lives as, shall I dare say it.... ADULTS!!!!  WOW.  Those Momma heart strings are really pulling now.  You have done all you can do to prepare them for the world and now you have to sit back and watch them fly.

I can honestly say, that my kids have grown up to be pretty great adults.  They are both in the EARLY adult stages but they are starting out right.  This is what brings me to the title of this post.  I watch my kids in awe sometimes and wonder, did I really have a hand in this?  It's amazing because I am still trying to figure out my own life.  LOL  Even through all the struggles when they were Tweens, Pre-Teens and Teenagers, they survived!!

They make me so proud, my heart literally bursts!!  I am about to drop my Daughter off at college in LESS THAN A MONTH, get the Kleenex ready.  She is MORE than ready and I, to say the least, am no where near ready.  But I have taught her all I can up to this point and now I need to step back and let her spread her wings and do her thing.  I know I have taught her well and she really has a solid head on those shoulders of hers (she has cracked it more times than I wish to mention HA).  And my Son, wow, he is going to be graduating the Police Academy in just a few months.  I can't tell you how proud and how scared I am all at the same time.  He has had his heart and mind set on this goal since he was 14 years old and has done everything on the straight and narrow to make sure this dream will become a reality.  At the young age of 22 at that.  I was a first time Mom at his age and certainly did not have my life together but he has set a goal and stayed the course.

I say all of this to let all the moms out there that are wondering when things will get easier, or those that are wanting to pull their hair out, or those that feel like they are just at the end of their rope, I have been there and IT DOES GET EASIER!!!  Just be prepared to feel the tugging on the heart but the pride you feel when your kids succeed is, well I don't have any words for that.

To my kids: Know that I am ALWAYS proud of you and will ALWAYS be here no matter what.  You both have made my life as a Mom so many things and I can't imagine doing life without either of you.

Aim High my kiddos, and remember, I am and always will be your biggest fan!

Sunday, December 25, 2016

A new kind of Christmas morning

Where did the crazy go???

We were always used to having Christmas either really early or on Christmas Eve as the kids got older if my husband had to work.  Life of  Fire Family.  But this year was different and I am not sure what to think about that.

While the hubs is now on days and thankfully has all the holidays off, the kids currently work in retail so both had to work today.  Boo on that.  So what does that mean??  There was no early morning hustle and bustle of ripping open what Santa brought, or wrapping paper everywhere, or structured chaos as I hand out gifts to each one so that everyone has something to open at all times.  I am a little bit of a control freak if you weren't aware....  LOL  It was a very quite Christmas morning with no wrapping paper flying around and no chaos.  I woke up with the pups, made some coffee, talked to my Mom and then Mother In Law for a bit.  Once Shawn woke up we opened our presents to each other and from other family members and then went on about eating breakfast.  It was a whole different experience.  First year I got to open my presents first though so that was kind fun. :)

Don't get me wrong, I am thankful for everything and everyone and that we are all healthy and employed but not quite sure I was ready for this.  I hadn't thought it through in my head.  I know as the next few years come and go this will become our normal.  Either the kids will be working or they will be celebrating the crazy chaotic Christmas with their own little families and we will continue to have the quiet calm Christmas mornings.  I should be thankful right?

You may be wondering where I am going with this.....  For those of you with little ones still at home, enjoy all the crazy of Christmas morning, take it all in and cherish it.  Don't wish for the quiet it will come soon enough.  The shrieks and shrills of the Santa effect represent pure joy as only littles can.

This Christmas is one more step in me truly letting go and watching my kids become the amazing adults I know they are and will be.  I am truly blessed with my life and my family.  I just don't like letting go.  LOL

Merry Christmas to all my family and friends!!  Many blessings to you all!!!

Nic


Saturday, November 12, 2016

Another Proud Momma moment

I had the pleasure of watching yet another amazing performance by the Midlothian Theatre Department last night.  These kids impress me every time.  From the Acting to the Singing and of course the Technical prowess.  Of course I may be biased on the Techie part....  :)

They all work so hard for their craft and it definitely shows at each performance.  This year's fall show was "The Little Mermaid JR".  It was so much fun to watch.  It brought the book and movie to life but these kids added their own style to it.

This performance was also a little bittersweet..... this was the last kids show that Taylor will be a part of at MHS.  She will be graduating in May and I know she will have so many wonderful experiences but it is a little sad that we are starting the "lasts" list.

If you are in the area at the end of January you must come see their Musical - Grease!!!  It is going to be AMAZING!!

~Proud Theatre Techie Mom!!




COVID 19 / Quarantine / Social Distancing........a new normal?

This post may be a little all over the place so hang with me.  I like all of you are living this new normal right now and I am not sure what...